The signs and symptoms of self-harm and where to get help

on Thu 24 Oct


Shocking though this may sound self-harm – when someone intentionally hurts themselves – is now considered very common behaviour which possibly affects 10% of 15 to 16 year olds – primarily females.


However this is not exclusively a “teen thing”


We’re unable to cite accurate figures because this is usually a secret and hidden activity but we do know that self-harm usually starts as a way of relieving the pressure of thoughts or feelings that are overwhelmingly distressful. In other words it is a coping strategy whereby emotional pain is relieved by physical pain.


There are several key factors that usually pre-empt this including

  • bullying
  • problems at home
  • problems within a friendship group
  • low self esteem
  • anxiety or depression
  • academic pressures
  • negative feelings about body image
  • bereavement
  • abuse
  • painful memories


The warning signs of self-harm

If you are concerned about friends, family or colleagues there are some signs which may indicate that someone is self-harming.


Physical signs:

  • cuts, bruises, bite-marks, scratch marks, burns or bald patches from hair pulling
  • Sudden weight loss or gain
  • Drinking or taking drugs
  • Being withdrawn and isolated
  • Keeping themselves covered up
  • Bloody tissues in bins


Boys often show different signs which may not be picked up as self-harming. For example breaking the skin on their knuckles by hitting walls; getting into fights and over exercising.


Emotional Signs:

  • Appearing withdrawn
  • Having a low mood
  • Losing interest in life
  • Outbursts of anger
  • Blaming themselves for problems
  • Saying they feel a failure, useless or hopeless


How to support

The Mix, a website which supports the under 25’s, shares five tips if someone tells you they are self-harming here 


Follow the link to read these in full but essentially they are          

  1. Don’t panic
  2. Offer to listen
  3. Help them find support
  4. Be there for the long haul
  5. Look after yourself


The charity Young Minds has similar advice but also shares what NOT to do in this article including



Where to get help

It’s important to seek help for someone who is self-harming. More than 50% of people who commit suicide have a history of self-harming so it’s essential to get help with managing or sorting out the underlying problem.


Your first port of call should be your GP who can then refer you professionals in the care of mental health. You may also be prescribed anti-depressants


Apart from the organisations I have already mentioned there are many others that can help with support including Samaritans – you can call 116 123 for free; and Mind    .


There is also the national self-harm network 


Finally I recommend an extremely helpful resource put together by the Welsh Government.  This has a large quantity of helpful step by step advice 


I do hope this assists you.



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